Been There, Done That

In the beginning….

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I wrote a book. It wasn’t a pretty little book wrapped in a pretty little package with the happy-ever-after ending we all want. That isn’t my story. Not yet; but, the end isn’t written yet. I expect good things so on with my blog. It was an ugly book filled with self-doubt, physical abuse, and degradation. A lot of it. But, it’s a book I hope will help you. I know it helped me. Writing my story forced me to take a long, hard look at myself and take responsibility for my life. For the poor choices I made that put me in the line of fire. It also forced me to let go of the situations I didn’t cause. To release myself from the shame and blame that wasn’t mine. To acknowledge I’m not responsible for someone else’s actions. Being there didn’t give them license to hurt me. That was their choice and they did it. It wasn’t mine.

What I allowed other people’s action to do to me; however, was my choice and I take responsibility for that. That’s one of the first steps to healing those deep wounds that alter the course of our lives and put us in dark places we were never meant to go. Honestly, that’s the most important messages to take away from my book. The one that says we’re responsible for our feelings. I can tell you from experience, whether you own your feelings or your feelings own you is up to you. The moment I went from being owned by my emotions to choosing to own them is moment my life took a turn for the better.

On an aside note, I’m working on Been There, Done That 2. That isn’t the real title. That hasn’t been decided yet. I have decided the book will be about all the years I spent immersed in the Occult trying to control my future and find purpose in my life. That’s about as far as I’ve gotten with the writing. That’s also part of why I’m starting this blog. I want to keep you updated on my progress with both books if you’re interested. I have a message I hope will help heal the wounded hearts and I hope to find that following where I can do the most good.

I’ll also be sharing incidents that didn’t make it into Been There, Done That…Had The Smashed Up Face To Prove It. Some will be helpful and some will be amusing in that twisted I-Know-This-Will-Be-Funny-Some Day way. I’d intended to free hand this blog and make it about anything that caught my fancy. Suddenly that doesn’t feel right. Not in this moment. Instead, the blog will center on my book, life lessons learned, and my journey to find an agent and publisher. That feels like the way to go. Anyways, we’ll see what happens.

Calla

General

Come into my parlor….

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Welcome! A couple of years ago, I started writing this blog under the title, “Tori’s Stories” believing I’d write about the historical/contemporary romances I was busily writing at the time. My life took a different path soon after and the blog ended before it began. Real life issues sidetracked me from writing for a while.

Now, I’m back with both a different perspective on life and a different trajectory for my writing. To update you, those changes led to me penning my memoir Been There, Done That…Had the Smashed Up Face to Prove It. As I’ve said in the About section of this blog, I’m currently seeking the right literary agent to represent me. Until that happens, I’ll be free-forming it here on Calla’s Comments and having a good time doing it.

Like most of us, I have lots to say about all kinds of things so don’t be surprised by anything I toss out there. What I won’t comment on is politics, negativity, and celebrity gossip for starters. I know those things are out there; but, they aren’t in my wheelhouse. They also get enough press without me joining the fray so I won’t.

What my comments will include is snippets from my book, introducing myself a little more as we go along, any generalized crazy crap that enters my mind I want to share, my interest in the supernatural (no, it’s not what you think), the antics of my two nut-buggery fur babies, and snippets from my second yet-to-be-written nonfiction book. There will probably be an excerpt or two from those yet to be rewritten historical romances locked away on my crashed hard drive twenty-five years in the making.

I make no promises not to be all over the place with my posts. While I’m laser focused when I have a project to finish, chaotically pursing whatever catches my fancy in my downtime is my happy place. I hope it’s yours, too.

As I bring this page to a close, please come back. I’ll be updating at least once more this week. Maybe twice. I can’t tell you when. I can tell you my second post of the week will be up by Saturday night. After that, I’ll post at least once a week. Maybe more. That depends on what I have to share. If you want to comment, feel free to do so.

Until next time, have a great one!

Calla